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This is the homepage of Staci Sprout. Staci is a licensed psychotherapist, author, publisher, and promoter of high candor stories of overcoming adversity. This site serves as a portal to her therapy practice r.evolution psychotherapy, her memoir Naked In Public: A Memoir of Recovery From Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities, and her publishing and promotion company Recontext Media.

Best Resources for Women in Relationship and Sexual Recovery

Where to start on the educational path to recovery? Here is my collection of great online resources, books, personal recovery stories/memoirs and more related to women and love, sex and relationship healing!

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Best Book reading list/Resource List for Women Healing from Love, Sex and Relationship Addiction

 

Created in gratitude, 2018, by Staci Sprout, LICSW, CSAT

Here is a list of resources I’ve collected, with additions suggested by other professionals who treat women healing from love, sex, and relationship addiction. Don't worry about reading everything at once, just see what attracts you on this list and get started expanding your library and your knowledge at your own pace! And - if I've left out your favorites, please email me your suggestions – I'm always learning! :-)

Books on Love Addiction and Intimacy Recovery

 

Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDaniel

Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree (TEXTBOOK)

Women, Sex and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power by Charlotte S. Kasl, PhD

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power for to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller

Lesbian Love Addiction: Understanding the Urge to Merge and How to Heal When Things Go Wrong by Lauren D. Costine, PhD

Is It Love or Is It Addiction: The Book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy by Brenda Schaeffer, D.Min, MA, LP, CAS

Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous by The Augustine Fellowship/SLAA

Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships by Susan Peabody

Recovery Workbook for Love Addicts and Love Avoidants by Susan Peabody

Overcoming Love Addiction: Your Recovery Roadmap by Lacy Alajna Bentley (kindle)

The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes, PhD

Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest by Ken Adams, PhD and Patrick Carnes, PhD

The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life by Dr. Patricia Love

Escape from Intimacy: Untangling the "Love" Addictions: Sex, Romance, Relationship by Anne Wilson Schaef

Leaving the Enchanted Forest: The Path from Relationship Addiction to Intimacy by Stephanie Covington and Liana Beckett

Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change by Robin Norwood

Love and Addiction by Stanton Peele and Archie Broadsky

Breaking Free: A Recovery Handbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody with Andrea Wells Miller

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller

Untangling Relationships: A Christian's Perspective on Codependency by Pat Springle

The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us by Ross Rosenberg

The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love by Pia Mellody and Lawrence S. Freundlich

 

 

Books on Sex Addiction Recovery

Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan by Alexandra Katehakis

Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence by Alex Katehakis

No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree

Sex Addicts Anonymous [3rd ed] by Fellowship SAA

Pure Desire for Women Eight Pillars to Freedom from Love Addiction & Sexual Issues by Diane Roberts, Workbooks 1 & 2

She Has a Secret by Douglas Weiss, PhD - 24 recovering Christian female sex addicts share their stories

Secret Solutions Workbook: More Than 100 Ways to End the Secret by Doug Weiss, PhD

Facing the Shadow [Workbook, 3rd Ed.]: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery by Patrick Carnes

Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment by Alexandra Katehakis (TEXTBOOK)

Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery by Forest Benedict and Shane Adamson 

Your Brain On Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction by Gary Wilson

The Storm of Sex Addiction by Connie A. Lofgreen, MSW, CSAT

Clinical Management of Sex Addiction by Patrick Carnes and Kenneth M. Adams (TEXTBOOK)

Beyond the Bedroom: Healing for Adult Children of Sex Addicts by Doug Weiss, PhD

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick J. Carnes, PhD

Lovemaps: Clinical Concepts of Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition in Childhood, Adolescence, and Maturity by John Money

 

Books, Resources on Compulsive Sexual Avoidance, Social/Sexual Anorexia

 

Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred by Patrick Carnes, PhD

What is Intimacy and Sexual Avoidance? https://saa-recovery.org/diversity/isa/

Recovery from Compulsive Sexual Avoidance: A Return to Intimacy: https://saa-recovery.org/literature/recovery-from-compulsive-sexual-avoidance-a-return-to-intimacy/

Anorexia: Sexual, Social, Emotional: SLAA Women’s Phone Meeting Group - https://www.slaawomensgroup.org/newcomers/anorexia/

Ashes to Beauty a Woman's Journey of Hope Through the Wildfires of Sexual Anorexia (Workbook) by Kerry Schortzman

Intimacy Anorexia & Intimacy Anorexia, The Workbook: Healing the Hidden Addiction in Your Marriage by Douglas Weiss

 

Screening Tests for Love Addiction

SLAA 40 questions

https://slaafws.org/download/core-files/The_40_Questions_of_SLAA.pdf

Self-Assess via this article:

Is it Love or Is It Addiction: 30 Differences

Screening Test for Sex Addiction

 

Sexual Addiction Screening Test for Women (SAST - W)

http://debrakaplancounseling.com/wp-content/assets/sast-women.pdf

Standard Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST)

https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/sex-addiction/SAST/index.php

Screening Tests for Porn Addiction in Women

 

Am I Addicted to Porn? A 20 Question Self-Help Test for Women

http://www.stacisprout.com/am-i-addicted-to-porn-a-20-question-selfhelp-test-for-women/

Pornography Assessment http://www.christinabell.net/downloads/ (scroll down to “Pornography Assessment”)

 

Screening Tests for Sexual Anorexia, Social & Sexual Avoidance

Am I (Sexually or Relationship) Anorexic? 50 Questions https://slaafws.org/download/CACAmIAnorexic_%2050Questions.pdf 

Sexual Anorexia Diagnostic Criteria http://www.christinabell.net/downloads/ (scroll down to “Pornography Assessment” and click; scroll down for “Sexual Anorexia Diagnostic Criteria”

  

Special Programs, Approaches and Resources - Online resources

By women, for women, or featuring women:

 

www.Stacisprout.com

This website, where this list is kept and frequently updated. Includes a blog, educational videos, recorded meditations, links to articles, and a resource list for women seeking 12-Step program info, Inpatient treatment, and Intensives designed especially for women.

 

Sex Addiction in the News

23 Videos on YouTube Channel about sex, love, and relationship recovery, hosted by Staci Sprout and featuring many interviews with women in successful recovery, including “Female Faces of Sex Addiction Recovery,” “Naked in Public” (about the book and the vulnerability of recovery), an interview with Lacy Alajna Bentley, and interview with Katy Moore, an interview with Marnie Ferree, and a TV interview on female sex and love addiction.

 

Ready to Heal FREE Study Guide

Kelly McDaniel provides further explanation of the topics covered in Ready to Heal. Expanded description of the Four Cultural Beliefs, Mother Hunger, and Female Friendships are included. Additionally, guided questions for thought and tools for recovery are provided.

  

Love Addiction Recovery Kit, Parts 1 & 2, Sex Addiction Recovery Kit, and More Free Resources

Christina Bell’s website offers multiple downloads and resources for anyone to use, including boundaries, mindfulness meditation, emotional regulation, pornography assessment, sexual betrayal and recovery, breakup recovery and more.

 

“Ready to Heal” Online Class for Women at Center for Healthy Sex

At Center for Healthy Sex, we offer an Online Love Addiction Class for women who struggle with Love Addiction and Addictive Relationships. The Ready to Heal Online Love Addiction Class is available now for your privacy and convenience from the comfort of your own home. Get the help you need now and break free from addictive relationships! Call (310) 843-9902 to register.

 

Worth Recovery

Worth Recovery is an organization dedicated to dispelling shame and building hope in the lives of women recovering from sex addiction. Amy shares the experiences of women in recovery to help you build hope & recovery! Podcast, Events, Education!

Worth Recovery Podcast: Great podcasts about women and sexual recovery https://worthrecovery.podbean.com/ 

 

Jace Downey, recovering sex addict and documentary filmmaker – great links and projects

You Tube series of 72 videos of Jace discussing her progress with sex addiction recovery, popular culture, and the struggles and triumphs of her journey. https://www.youtube.com/user/JaceDowney/videos

 

Love Junkie podcast*

Created by therapist Shena Tubbs, CSAT, the “Love Junkie” podcast is dedicated for those struggle with love and sex addiction, addictive relationships, codependency, trauma and the feel the “normal” relationship advice just doesn’t truly apply to them.

 

Porn Problems: Here Come the Women

Fantastic resource page from YourBrainOnPorn.com for women, listing research, articles, testimonials and comments from women struggling with sex and porn addiction.

 

Lacy Bentley, Professional Certified Life Coach and Recovery Mentor, BS, Psychology

Lacy has been mentoring women in overcoming compulsive behaviors and obsessive thought patterns since 2000. She stared working with women in eating disorder recovery, and now also works with women seeking to overcome relationship and sexually compulsive behaviors. A passionate guest blogger and dedicated Professional Recovery Coach, Lace takes addiction recovery seriously. She brings gentle, but no-nonsense accountability, compassionate mentorship, and her own solid recovery habits to the table. She trains recovery coaches in "Real Love Recovery" and offers the e-book "Overcoming Love Addiction" via her website.

Christina Bell, PhD

Free downloadable resources for recovery in various areas, including mindfulness, self-compassion, emotional regulation, love/sex/porn addiction, break-up recovery, anxiety, couples, and more! 

SexandRelationshipHealing.com

Information, blogs, podcasts and videos about sex and relationship healing, featuring women and men, by Rob Weiss, MSW, CSAT-S. Sign up for daily inspiration available.

 

The Grace Spot

The Grace Spot exists to educate all people on the reality of female pornography use and to break the stigma that only men struggle with this issue.

They strive to equip women to break free from shame and to find lasting freedom from pornography and other sexual addictions, and offer a safe place to seek healing and restore intimacy, confidence and self-love. It is a platform to share stories and open a vulnerable conversation about sex.

For more Christian-oriented resources for teens and women struggling with porn, check out this extensive resource list from covenant eyes: 

http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/06/30/resources-women-struggle-porn/

 

 

More Books and Resources on Recovery-Related Issues and Approaches

 

A Woman’s Way Through the Twelve Steps by Stephanie S. Covington, PhD

A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery by Patrick Carnes, PhD

The Steps We Took by Joe McQ

Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal by Belleruth Naparstek

Post-Traumatic Stress (PTSD) Bundle, guided visualizations by Belleruth Naparstek, https://www.healthjourneys.com/posttraumatic-stress-bundle

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle

Trauma Sensitive Yoga - Fierce Medicine: Breakthrough Practices to Heal the Body and Ignite the Spirit by Ana T. Forrest

Trauma Into Truth: Gutsy Healing and Why It’s Worth It by Rythea Lee

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

Woman’s Comfort Book: A Self-Nurturing Guide for Restoring Balance in Your Life by Jennifer Louden

Black Girls Heal Coloring Book: Mindfulness & Coloring Activity Book by Shena Tubbs, illustrated by Lauren Sevilla

The Power of Vulnerability (audio), Daring Greatly, I Thought It Was Just Me, more by Brené Brown

The Daring Way, Brené Brown, https://thedaringway.org/

Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. by Brené Brown

Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw

Program of Certification for Shame Healing

www.healingshame.com

Stephen Porges - Polyvagal Theory and Window of Tolerance

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivLEAlhBHPM

Dialectical Behavior Therapy

DBT Skills Training Manual [2nd Ed] by Marsha M. Linehan

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay and Jeffrey C. Wood

Radically Open DBT (RO DBT) for disorders of excessive self-control/over-control of emotion

International Transgender Certification Association

http://www.transgendercertification.org/

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find -- And Keep -- Love by Amir Levine, MD and Rachel S.F. Heller, MA

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin by Anne Katherine

Boundaries Updated: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Drop the Rock: Removing Character Defects – Steps 6 & 7 by Bill P.

Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children by Jean Illsley Clarkey

Amends, Apologies & the Myths of Forgiveness: A Guide to the Eighth and Ninth Steps by Stephen C. (SLAA-focus)

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff, PhD

The Book of Forgiving: A Four-Fold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu

How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Melba Colgrove, PhD, Harold H. Bloomfield, PhD, & Peter McWilliams

 

Women's Development, Culture, Oppression, Healing

In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development by Carol Gilligan

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L. Herman, MD

Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt by Peg Streep

Daughter Detox: Recovering from An Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life by Peg Streep

Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher and Ruth Ross

Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss [20th Ann Ed] by Hope Edelman

American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers by Nancy Jo Sales

Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape by Peggy Orenstein

Our Bodies, Ourselves: A Book by and for Women by Boston Women’s Health Book Collective

The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women by Naomi Wolf

Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality by Gail Dines

Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture by Ariel Levy

Mean Girls, Meaner Women: Understanding Why Women Backstab, Betray and Trash-Talk Each Other and How to Heal by Dr. Erika Holiday and Dr. Joan Rosenberg

Mean Girls Grow Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid to Bees by Cheryl Dellasega, PhD

Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power & A World Without Rape by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti

The Wheel of Consent https://bettymartin.org/videos/

Sex Rules! Astonishing Sexual Practices and Gender Roles Around the World by Janice Z. Brodman

The Meaning of Difference: American Constructions of Race and Ethnicity, Sex and Gender, Social Class, Sexuality and Disability by Karen E. Rosenblum and Toni-Michelle C. Travis

Black Sexual Politics: African-Americans, Gender, and the New Racism by Patricia Hill Collins

Personal Village: How to Have People in Your Life by Choice, Not Chance, and Personal Village Workbook: Six Steps to Build your Personal Community by Marvin Thomas, MSW

Love and Sex: Cross Cultural Perspectives by Elaine Hatfield and Richard L. Rapson

 

 

Healing Relationships After Betrayal

Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass

The Emotional Affair: How to Recognize Emotional Infidelity and What to Do About It by Ronald Potter-Efron MSW PhD and Patricia Potter-Efron MS

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancrof

The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robin Stern

Heartbreak, Abandonment and Betrayal - Guided Imagery CD or MP3 by Belleruth Naparstek

The Couple's Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal by Drs. Bill and Ginger Bercaw

Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality by Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser

Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child by Laura Davis

The Couple’s Comfort Book: A Creative Guide for Renewing Passion, Pleasure & Commitment by Jennifer Louden

 

 

Healthy Dating, Sexuality 

Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life That You Love by David Steele

If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path by Charlotte Kasl

Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women's Sexual Fantasies by Wendy Maltz

Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Alexandra Katehakis

Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix, PhD

The Five Love Languages: Singles/Couples Editions: The Secret To Love That Lasts/That Will Revolutionize Your Relationships by Gary Chapman

The Heart and Soul of Sex: Making the ISIS Connection by Gina Ogden

Women Who Love Sex: Ordinary Women Describe Their Paths to Pleasure, Intimacy, and Ecstasy by Gina Ogden

Aphrodite's Daughters: Women's Sexual Stories and the Journey of the Soul by Jalaja Bonheim

Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure by Wendy Maltz, Thomas Moore

Femalia - a book of images of the beautiful variety of women's vulvas by Joani Blank

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Live by Emily Nagoski, PhD

Awakening Your Sexuality: A Guide for Recovering Women by Stephanie S. Covington, PhD

 

Raising Sexually Healthy Children

The Secret Lives of Teen Girls: What Your Mother Wouldn't Talk about But Your Daughter Needs to Know by Evelyn Resh

Venus in Blue Jeans: Why Mothers & Daughters Need to Talk About Sex by Nathalie Bartle, EdD with Susan Lieberman, PhD

For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health by Al Vernacchio

The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen About Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age by Jennifer Weeks, PhD

Not for Kids!: Protecting Kids Online Kindle Edition by Liz Walker 

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen A. Jensen, MA and Dr. Poyner

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, Jr. Version: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds by Kristen A. Jensen, MA

Daddy’s Secret Cedar Chest by Geoff Goodman, PhD

Beyond the Big Talk: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Teens - From Middle School to High School and Beyond by Debra W. Hafner and Alyssa Haffner Tartaglione

From Diapers to Dating: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children - From Infancy to Middle School by Debra W. Haffner

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health by Robie H. Harris

It's So Amazing: A Book About Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies and Families by Robie H. Harris

The Rest of the Way: Healing Barriers Between Gays, Lesbians, and Their Parents by Enid Duchin Jackowitz

 

Memoirs and Story Collections of Women and Trans FTM

Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery from Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities – Staci Sprout

Insatiable: A Memoir of Love Addiction – Shary Hauer

Dirty Girls Come Clean --Crystal Renaud

Girl Walks Out of a Bar: A Memoir – Lisa F. Smith

Love Addict: Sex, Romance, and Other Dangerous Drugs – Ethlie Ann Vare

Coming Off Love – Bridgit Newman

Love Junkie: A Memoir – Rachel Resnick

Getting Off: One Woman’s Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction – Erica Garza

Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey Through Sex Addiction – Sue William Silverman

Fast Girl: A Life Spent Running From Madness – Suzy Favor Hamilton

Loose Girl: A Memoir of Promiscuity – Kerry Cohen

Beggar's Daughter -- Jessica Harris

Second Son: Transitioning Toward My Destiny, Love and Life by Ryan K. Sallans

 

Last update 10/16/18