Women's Sex-Love Addiction Resources
Where do female sex and love addicts go for cutting edge resources? Where can they find women-specific treatment? 12-Step programs, books, podcasts, other great resources listed here.
If you or someone you love has a problem, getting specialized therapy to help navigate the journey can make a vital difference. You can find a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) in your area, or arrange distance therapy, through the Find a Therapist page on the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) website at www.iitap.com, or by calling 1-866-575-6853. Research therapists who are comfortable and experienced working with women. You may also take more comprehensive self-assessment tests at www.sexhelp.com. See the Resources section for more information. There are also selected specialty recovery coaches experienced helping women heal from intimacy, relationship, porn and sex addiction or related problems.
If you suspect you are addicted, you may also find help by attending several 12-Step sexual recovery meetings to see if you can relate to what you hear. I wrote Are Women Safe in 12-Step Recovering Meetings, that article may be helpful to you. If you suspect a loved one is addicted to sex, you can attend an open 12-Step meeting in a sexual recovery fellowship to learn more; there are fellowships for partners and families of sex addicts to get more support. Some 12-Step fellowships have their own self-assessment tests on their websites.
12-Step Programs for Sexual Addiction
Support sites for those struggling with their own sexual or relationship addiction.
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA): 713-869-4902, www.saa-recovery.org
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA): www.slaafws.org
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA): 800-977-4325, www.sca-recovery.org
Sexual Recovery Anonymous (SRA): www.sexualrecovery.org
Support for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s sexual or relationship addiction.
Codependents of Sex Addicts (COSA): 866-899-2672, www.cosa-recovery.org
CoSex and Love Addicts Anonymous Connecticut (COSLAA): 860-456-0032,www.coslaa.org
S-Anon: 615-833-3152, www.sanon.org
Support for couples affected by addiction, often with a sex addiction focus.
Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA): 877-663-2317, www.recovering-couples.org
Gender-specific INPATIENT THERAPY PROGRAMS:
LIVE ON SITE, LONGER, +MEALS included
The Meadows’ Willow House Relationship Healing for Women - Arizona
The Ranch Center for Relational and Sexual Recovery
Promises Malibu Vista Sex and Love Addiction in Women Program - California
Promises in Scottsdale, AZ
Contact: Shannon McQuaid, CSAT, Medical Director is Steven Karp, MD.
The Glass House, formerly called Five Sisters Ranch in California
INTENSIVES: ACCOMMODATIONS TYPICALLY OFF-SITE, SHORTER TERM
Individual one-to-one work for 2 – 3 days, focused on healing “Mother Hunger”. Individually tailored weekend experiences for each woman.
Kelly McDaniel LPC, NCC, CSAT
Hills Drive Suite 101 Fredericksburg, Texas 78624 830-992-3536
(o)210-826-8377 (m) kellymcdanieltherapy.com
Author: Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships
Also available as ebook.
Marnie Feree's Bethesda Workshops - Healing for Women
Bethesda Workshops are in Nashville, TN
4 days, Individual and Couples workshops
Treating only sexual & love addiction and intimacy disorders - Healing for Women - only for adult females who personally struggle. A Christian and Clinical intensive that is the equivalent of 8-12 months of weekly individual therapy; cost includes meals and lodging for duration of workshop; scholarship money and non-interest payment plans available.
Healing for Women Workshop: In only four days, women are invited to determine their sobriety and identify the triggers and rituals that threaten it, as well as the boundaries that protect it. They also complete a Trauma Egg to help them understand the engines that are driving their acting out. Most importantly, they can deeply connect with other women on a healing journey and work with a female therapist who has long-term personal recovery experience as an female sex and love addict.
This program begins Wednesday at 1:00 pm (Central) and continues through Saturday at 6:00 pm. The affordable price includes all lodging, meals, and transportation to and from the conference hotel, as well as the airport.
Many groups are still meeting via Skype or similar technology years after their workshops! Even if women are already engaged with an excellent recovery coach or a CSAT, women can greatly benefit from this intensive (10-12 clinical hours daily!), supportive process.
Bethesda Workshops is a 501c3
Marnie Ferree - Executive & Clinical Director www.BethesdaWorkshops.org
For more info call: 615-467-5610
Publication: No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree
Sex and Love Addiction 11-Day Intensive at Center for Healthy Sex is built upon the tenants of Interpersonal Neurobiology using Alexandra Katehakis’s Psychobiological Approach to Sex Addiction Treatment (PASAT). The program is highly relational and, therefore, deeply trauma based incorporating material from McDaniel's, "Ready to Heal” research from "Making Advances,” and art exercises by Marilyn Murray, including the original Trauma Egg. Clients report completing the programs with their dignity restored, sound recovery skills and a felt sense of the issues they need to continue working on. Cost $8500 (does not include sober living)
Women’s Love Addiction Weekend Workshop: Are you ready for a healthy love and sex life?
This 3-day workshop takes an integrated approach to treating love addiction, drawing on the latest therapeutic interventions and science-based research about intimacy, desire, love, sexual health, and happiness. This is an experiential workshop providing the tools needed to break free of problematic relational patterns to start developing a core sense of authentic emotional intimacy. Clients will learn what love addiction is, examine their own destructive cycle, explore its historical roots, and deconstruct the cultural beliefs about sex, love and femininity that fuel it. Additionally, they will deepen their understanding of healthy romantic relationships, create a personalized plan to help reduce harmful behaviors, and learn how to expand their capacity for personal integrity, intimacy and erotic radiance. Cost $395 (does not include housing)
Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., MFT, CST-S, CSAT-S
Clinical Director, Clinical Sexologist
Center for Healthy Sex
10700 S. Santa Monica Boulevard
A 5-day intensive for female sex and love addicts. Journey of a Woman's Heart: Finding True Intimacy is the name of our women's only sex and love addiction workshop. We help women to explore the ways in which their addictive behaviors and relationships are
major obstacles in finding the true intimacy they desire. We also incorporate The Meadows' commitment to focus on trauma by delving into relational trauma that set up current addictive and problematic relationship behaviors and patterns.
Journey of a Woman's Heart: Finding True Intimacy
5-day intensive (Monday-Friday)
Created by The Meadows Program Directors in collaboration with Alexandra Katehakis, We draw from the work of Dr. Patrick Carnes, Kelly McDaniel and maintain commitment to The Meadows’ focus on application of the best trauma modalities currently supported in the field.
This workshop is created for women who want to explore unhealthy sexual patterns and behaviors that deeply impact their ability to connect relationally in healthy ways. Whether the issues involved are past or present trauma, cultural messages, or negative beliefs, all can serve as roadblocks to true intimacy. Understanding the neurobiology that leads to sexual obsession and compulsivity offers a foundation to shame reduction, and the alleviation of self-loathing. Emotional regulation, body image, triggers for sexual acting out, and grief related to the myriad of associated losses are just a few of the many issues that are explored. Methods of enhancing esteem from within, rather than seeking validation from other sources are instilled. Critical to ongoing recovery, the ability to differentiate the behavior from one’s worth offers the participant greater compassion for self. Participants garner necessary tools and develop their own individual recovery plan. This workshop offers each individual a safe, supportive environment in which to explore sensitive issues.
Contact: Nicole Clarke, Intake Manager 800.244.4949 ext.4191More information on this workshop can be found by clicking
on the following link:
Rio Retreat @ The Meadows
Main: 1-800-MEADOWS ext 84144
Five Sisters Ranch - recently redeveloped as The Glass House in California
The Glass House is the new version of the Five Sisters program. They offer a 3 Week Intensive for women who are experiencing relationship challenges and feeling destabilized. This program is a combination of the one week Women’s Strength of HeartIntensive and is immediately followed by the Women’s 12 Day Intensive. The combined programs are bridged with a day of self-care and a day of personalized equine. If you are interested in an extended stay, please read through the two programs, Women’s Strength of Heart Intensive and the Women’s 12 Day Intensive, and call to discuss the particulars of a personalized program.
Vicki Tidwell Palmer, LCSW, CSAT, SEP
Author | Psychotherapist
Vicki offers a 4-day family of origin trauma intensive Reclaiming Wholeness, is gender-specific and perfect for female sex and love addicts. FOO work is often the missing piece that helps clients move to the next level of their recovery/healing. Many of my clients who've done this work say it literally changed their lives—helping them reduce shame,
and practice better self-care and boundaries.
Triune Therapy Group
Offers a 12-day women's sex and love intensive. Our intensive includes daily individual therapy, daily neurofeedback, somatic work, in addition to psychoeducational and process groups and 12 step meetings.
https://www.triunetherapy.com/intensives-workshops - Los Angeles, CA
Lauren Dummit–Schock, Clinical Director
Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S
Executive Director, Licensed Psychologist
Triune Therapy Group
11600 Wilshire Blvd., Suite 412
Los Angeles, CA 90025
Kate Parkinson, MFT, CSAT, CHFP
Facilitates individual intensives for female sex and love addicts.
Marriage Family Therapist
Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
Certified in EMDR
415 Cambridge Avenue Suite 13
Palo Alto, CA 94306
Candi R. Kaatz, LMFT, CSAT, EMDR
Runs family of origin-based relational trauma 4-day intensives for women. Pia Mellody-trained.
2000 Warfield Drive
Desert Star Addiction Recovery Center – Tucson, AZ
Grace: Gender Specific Intensive Outpatient Unhealthy Sexual and
Individual and Group Therapy Psychiatric and Psychological Service
Families Workshop ACU-Detox
Couples Workshop On-site 12 Step Meeting
7493 N. Oracle Road, Suite 203 | Tucson, Arizona 85704
Bethesda Intensive workshop for teen females ages 15-18
(18-year-olds still in high school) and their parents (Nashville, tn)
This clinical intensive workshop is family-based, rather than a program just for the adolescent girls themselves. Whoever is identified as the girl's parents (whether parents or step-parents - those who have primary residential and legal responsibility for the teen) are REQUIRED to attend.
The workshop is a group process where multiple families attend at the same time (normally four to six families). The participants move between brief educational segments, activities, and group settings. Some of the groups are separate gatherings of the girls and another group for the parents, where each population has a safe space to share their challenges as a family. Other groups are family therapy (with the girls and parents together) in a multi-family group setting with a male and female group leader. The intensive is active, experiential, and engaging for both the teen and the parents.
The inaugural Healing for Teen Females & Parents Workshops:
April 11-14, 2018
June 13-16, 2018
August 8-11, 2018
September 26-29, 2018
The workshop fee includes all lodging and meals for all family members attending. (Families will be housed in an executive suite at a nearby hotel.) Insurance does not cover the cost, but a no-interest payment plan is available.
See Bethesda's website has complete information:
While none of the programs below proclaims to specialize in sexual compulsivity treatment for teen girls/young women, they do treat many underlying causes and conditions of the self-soothing or self-numbing behaviors. Do your research carefully, but here is a start:
4928 N 4500 West
Cedar City, UT 84721, United States
Fax: (435) 865-9584
Timberline Knolls - Private Residential Treatment Center for Women with Eating Disorders, Addictions, Mood Disorders, & Trauma
40 Timberline Dr
Lemont, IL 60439 - near Chicago
To protect the privacy of our residents, we do not disclose the address of our residential teen treatment facilities to the public. If you are interested in learning more about our locations, please contact us at 888.934.1222.
Falcon Ridge Ranch is a licensed Residential Treatment Center for girls ages 12 to 18 who are experiencing emotional and behavioral problems but haven’t thrived under the traditional care of outpatient treatment and require and out-of-home therapeutic setting.
CARE Behavioral Health
747 E. St. George Blvd
St. George, UT 84770
Inner Change - Multiple residential programs across the U.S. for adolescent girls, variety of levels of care.
Other Resources FOR WOMEN:
In this intensely personal memoir, Staci Sprout offers a vulnerable account of her recovery journey from the painful world of sexual intrigue and addiction to recovery, family healing, and true love.
I've made a more complete list of links to ten other women's sex and love addiction memoirs on my blog, here: http://www.stacisprout.com/new-blog/2018/1/31/womens-sex-and-love-addiction-memoirs-with-first-sentences
Kelly McDaniel provides further explanation of the topics covered in Ready to Heal. Expanded description of the Four Cultural Beliefs, Mother Hunger, and Female Friendships are included. Additionally, guided questions for thought and tools for recovery are provided.
At Center for Healthy Sex, we offer an Online Love Addiction Class for women who struggle with Love Addiction and Addictive Relationships. The Ready to Heal Online Love Addiction Class is available now for your privacy and convenience from the comfort of your own home. Get the help you need now and break free from addictive relationships! Call (310) 843-9902 to register.
Worth Recovery is an organization dedicated to dispelling shame and building hope in the lives of women recovering from sex addiction. Amy shares the experiences of women in recovery to help you build hope & recovery! Podcast, Events, Education! http://worthrecovery.com/
Worth Recovery Podcast: Great podcasts about women and sexual recovery https://worthrecovery.podbean.com/
Jace Downey, recovering sex addict and documentary filmmaker – great links and projects:
You Tube series of 72 videos of Jace discussing her progress with sex addiction recovery, popular culture, and the struggles and triumphs of her journey. https://www.youtube.com/user/JaceDowney/videos, Jace's website here: http://www.suddenlycelibate.com/sex-addiction/.
Created by therapist Shena Tubbs, CSAT, the “Love Junkie” podcast is dedicated for those struggle with love and sex addiction, addictive relationships, codependency, trauma and the feel the “normal” relationship advice just doesn’t truly apply to them.
Every week, Shena is joined by an expert in the field, a friend, or a listener to share a story of hope and grace. In each episode, you’ll hear a different topic related to addictive relationships, breaking free, and growing a healthier and happier you!
Fantastic resource page from YourBrainOnPorn.com for women, listing research, articles, testimonials and comments from women struggling with sex and porn addiction.
Lacy has been mentoring women in overcoming compulsive behaviors and obsessive thought patterns since 2000. She stared working with women in eating disorder recovery, and now also works with women seeking to overcome relationship and sexually compulsive behaviors. A passionate guest blogger and dedicated Professional Recovery Coach, Lace takes addiction recovery seriously. She brings gentle, but no-nonsense accountability, compassionate mentorship, and her own solid recovery habits to the table.
FOR CHRISTIAN-ORIENTED RESOURCES FOR TEENS AND WOMEN STRUGGLING WITH PORN, CHECK OUT THIS EXTENSIVE RESOURCE LIST FROM COVENANT EYES:
If you have any resources you’d like to see added or corrected on this list, please contact me with your information. It is ever evolving! :)
Last update 4.19.18